Moodiness in relationships
Do bad moods or changing moods have a big part to play in getting in the way of happiness in your relationship? Almost everybody can feel in a mood from time to time. People who can take responsibility for their own bad mood may say they are feeling moody but do the things for themselves that make the mood lighter or minimise the impact of the mood on others in the family.
When moodiness leads to those around us taking cover or feeling nervous about what’s going to happen next, subtle harm is happening in the family. Moodiness as a tactic of control is abusive. If our moods lead us to stonewall or erupt at our loved ones, we are making how we feel more important than the precious relationships we are in and causing harm and distrust.
Emotional self-control, and self-regulation, when we feel moody, are tools that can be learnt and practiced. Little kids are totally driven by the feelings in their bodies and thoughts that happen with that but as we grow into young adults, we have language to use and relationships we invest in to help sooth our moods and feel better. People who remain moody into adulthood often do so because the behaviours that go along with moodiness work for them to get what they want.
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